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§18 · 6 tips

Is raising a child worth it?

What can you claim for having a child, and how much time and money does it take?

Tips from this section that apply in the United States.

Count the money in three stretches: ages 0 to 3, compulsory education, and after compulsory education

From 0 to 3, the money goes mainly to how the child is looked after: yourselves, the grandparents, or someone you hire. From primary school to junior high, it goes mainly to housing and extracurricular costs. After that, it goes mainly to the path of further schooling. The three stretches are spent very differently, and lumping them together only gives a frightening total.

  • Moderate value
  • Evidence C
  • Saves money

Keep a separate account for having a child for your elders, for the marriage, and for old-age support

That other people hope you will have a child can count as one of your considerations. But the time and money are recorded on your own account. "Raising a son to provide for old age" (养儿防老) should be counted as a separate item, because it bets on another person's finances and willingness twenty years from now. Also write down the consequences of not having a child, and compare the two sides.

  • Moderate value
  • Evidence C
  • Saves money

Mainland China only 3 tips

These tips describe mainland-China rules and do not apply in the United States; they are here for people living in China.